Matrimony is a holy sacrament, officiated by a priest, of uniting a man to a woman. Through this holy sacrament, the man and woman become one, for as the Lord Jesus said, "For this reason, a man shall leave his Father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, let not man separate what God has joined together" (Matthew 19:5,6).
St. Paul expressed the sanctity of the Sacrament of Christian Matrimony, saying, "This is a great mystery" (Ephesians 5:32) and, "Marriage is honourable among all and the bed undefiled" (Hebrews 13:4).
THE THREE GOALS OF CHRISTIAN MATRIMONY
- Cooperation between men and women
- Procreation
- Protection against adultery and fornication
Cooperation between men and women
The Lord God said: "It is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him" (Genesis 2:18), and "Woman was created for the man" (Corinthians 11:9).
'Comparable to him' means similar to and equal to him, helping and supporting him.
Procreation
To preserve humankind from extinction. Bearing children makes the couple rejoice, fills the house with joy and strengthens the marital relationship. David says in the Psalm, "Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord; the fruit of the womb is His reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them" (Psalm 127:3-5), and, "Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine, in the very heart of your house, behold thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord" (Psalm 128:3-6).
Children are a heritage from the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is His reward, but if the Lord God has not given children to a married couple, they should not grieve but say, 'Let it be Your will Lord', in complete surrender to Him. Christianity does not make reproduction the main aim of marriage, but the second aim after the cooperation between the married couple.
The church does not permit divorce when one of the partners is barren but advises them to continue together without destroying their happiness over a matter that is unnecessary.
Immunity against Adultery and Fornication:
St. Paul mentioned: "It is good for a man not to touch a woman, not to marry. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his wife, and let each woman has her husband … For it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7). Marriage is the remedy for human weakness, keeping oneself virtuous and preventing sexual immorality, which God detests.
Christian Marriage elevates the bodily union to become a spiritual union through the Holy Spirit, just as the Holy Spirit works in the Baptismal water to make humans a new creation and works through the Sacrament of Confirmation to ordain a person to become a temple of the Holy Spirit. Through prayers and faith, the Holy Spirit also works in the couple during the marital ceremony to unite them in the Lord. The two partners become one through the commitments made by the bride and groom in fulfilling the commandments of marriage and the work of the Holy Spirit.
The Christian marriage is distinguished by specific characteristics, some of which are:
Unity
Christianity believes and insists on the law of monogamy, for in the beginning, God created male and female; one Adam and one Eve. Through Matrimony, the two become one in Christ. Hence, they are no longer two but one body.
Continuity
The purpose of Matrimony is continuance, without divorce, except in the case of adultery. This is because a strange person has entered and corrupted the holy unity of Matrimony and profaned its holiness. However, if the person who sinned repented, and the partner forgave them, then the church permits the continuation of the marriage.
The second situation in which divorce may occur is due to the spiritual immorality or denial of faith and abandonment of Christianity by one of the partners. The matter of annulment of Matrimony is authorized by the church when a partner has deceived or cheated the other, and even issues regarding sexual impotence.
Bearing fruits
Through the Holy Spirit, the Christian family bears many fruits…
Christian virtues in the life of its members
When the Lord grants blessed children, the family must bring them up in fear of God and the church.
Service and good deeds that glorify our Father in heaven. They should deal with all people in true Christian love, living a life of service and self-sacrificing. Hence, the many fruits that a Christian family bears are not only children but love, virtues, and service.
The Sacrament of Matrimony should take place in the church, for it is the house of God and the house of angels. Before the altar, the groom receives his bride, committing himself while standing before the altar to love her like himself and treat her as an equal, not any less, and she also promises to obey him, as Sarah did with Abraham.
It is not permitted that the Sacrament of Matrimony take place in houses, except in the situation of persecution, where the lives of the bride and groom are at risk during the processions. It is also necessary that the houses be big enough for such an occasion.
It is also not permitted that the sacrament of Matrimony take place during seasons of fasting or times just before fasting begins, for it would not be possible for the newly married couple to abide by the commandment of fasting, both from a food and marital relation perspective.
The Matrimonial Rite is performed for virgin couples. However, if one of the partners is widowed, for example, there is another prayer called 'The Prayer of Forgiveness.
After marriage, the couple should have one confession father who will care for them and help them with their problems, with a fatherly spirit.
The Coptic Church believes strongly in the principle of one wife and adopts its principle from the holy Gospels, which constantly alludes to man having only one wife: "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her" (Mark 10:11), and as our teacher St. Paul says, "For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and rejoined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh" (Ephesians 5:31).ion (Revelation 3:1). The Spirit of God dwells and sanctifies the oil to heal those anointed by it. The wicks should be placed in the sign of the cross in the plate of oil.